Lying is the attempt to say that something did happen when it didn’t or that something didn’t happen when it did. It is an alteration of the truth in order to avoid censure or punishment.<\/p>\n
I am sure that you have figured out by now that some promises you were given when you started your present job are probably not going to be kept. I thought you might like to know why that happens and what you can do about it.<\/p>\n
Most of us realize that hemming and hawing (dancing around the issue of merit increases or continuing employment) are a sign of the evasive maneuver known as stalling, which leads eventually to a flat denial that a promise was ever made. This is often followed by criticism of your work and a threat that you need to improve your attitude if you expect to continue as an employee.<\/p>\n
Not all managers lie, by any means, but when they do it is a crushing experience that leaves you bitter and vowing never to be caught like that again. And you won’t be caught in that same way, but you will be caught in some other way by a manager who is ever so convincing until it’s time to pay up or give you the promotion. etc.<\/p>\n
Managers lie for the same reason the rest of us lie, when and if we lie. \ud83d\ude42 They are afraid to come clean with us.<\/p>\n
Managers are no different than the rest of us. They lie because they
\nare afraid to admit that they promised something they never intended to
\ndeliver. They are so ashamed of what you will think of them that they
\nlie. Isn’t that amazing?<\/p>\n
Lying is the result of fear. Whether it is a child lying to you or a
\nsenior executive, the mechanism is exactly the same. The person is
\nashamed of what you will think of them, so they give you an answer that
\nwill hopefully get you to go away and leave them alone.<\/p>\n
Some people lie compulsively and it is a terrible thing to watch.
\nThese people will say anything in order to escape scrutiny. After a
\nwhile there are so many lies piled up that they have very few things
\nthey can tell the truth about. <\/p>\n
These people know they are frauds and they bluster and swagger and
\nadopt all manner of stratagems to make you think they are people of
\ngreat integrity. They exude false confidence like a miasma of bad
\ndeodorant. <\/p>\n
This is the person who is compulsively performing a pitiful charade
\nin order to stave off the demons that lurk in every question that might
\nbe asked of them. A simple question like, "Did you read my budget
\nrequest?" sets off an entire chain of evasive maneuvers or a tirade
\nbecause it threatens to uncover a bushel of omissions and cover-ups.<\/p>\n
The closer one comes to uncovering their secrets, the more violent
\ntheir reactions will be. I had a vice-president pull me off a project
\nin the last few days before launch, because I inadvertently stumbled on
\na deal she was working with a vendor. When I documented the situation,
\nthe HR person assigned to me said, "You’re not implying that the Vice
\nPresident made a mistake, are you?"<\/p>\n
Taking my cue from HR’s helpful hint, I refrained from blowing the
\nwhistle and took my disciplinary action like a good little soldier and
\ndecided that I really needed to be elsewhere. Perhaps somewhere saner.<\/p>\n
If you are in good communication with someone who lies, you can try
\nto let them know that it’s not working. A gentle reminder can have an
\namazing effect if you can do it in a non-threatening manner. <\/p>\n
If you do not see a change for the better, you need to think about
\nsevering your connection with this person, as you will be dragged into
\nsituations where they will expect you to cover for them. <\/p>\n
Even if you don’t cover for them, you may still get embroiled in the
\nsituations they have created because you may end up trying to handle
\nthe customer they lied to. Customer support people get a lot of this
\nwhen unscrupulous sales people mislead customers to make a sale.<\/p>\n
The simplest solution is not to lie and not to associate or deal with those that do. <\/p>\n
Life will be so much simpler that you will never look back.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Lying is the attempt to say that something did happen when it didn’t or that something didn’t happen when it did. It is an alteration of the truth in order to avoid censure or punishment.<\/p>\n
I am sure that you have figured out by now that some promises you were given when you started your present job are probably not going to be kept. I thought you might like to know why that happens and what you can do about it.<\/p>\n
Most of us realize that hemming and hawing (dancing around the issue of merit increases or continuing employment) are a sign of the evasive maneuver known as stalling, which leads eventually to a flat denial that a promise was ever made. This is often followed by criticism of your work and a threat that you need to improve your attitude if you expect to continue as an employee.<\/p>\n
Not all managers lie, by any means, but when they do it is a crushing experience that leaves you bitter and vowing never to be caught like that again. And you won’t be caught in that same way, but you will be caught in some other way by a manager who is ever so convincing until it’s time to pay up or give you the promotion. etc.<\/p>\n
Managers lie for the same reason the rest of us lie, when and if we lie. \ud83d\ude42 They are afraid to come clean with us.<\/p>\n