Life
\nis a game in that there are barriers to success, rewards for success,
\nopponents, and potential team mates. There are dimly-understood rules
\nof a sort, penalties for failure, and you can’t opt out of the game
\nexcept by dying. The one saving grace is that you have a better chance
\nof winning in life if you remain insouciant, that is to say by
\nremaining carefree. <\/p>\n
Just to make the game more complex, you will find there are winners,
\nlosers, and victims. In addition, your environment is an essential
\ncomponent of the game. Your survival depends on how well you understand
\nit.<\/p>\n
You will get as much pleasure out of playing the game as you are
\nable to play it in a self-determined manner. You will experience misery
\nout of the game to the extent that you consider that "they" are forcing
\nyou to play a part that you don’t want to play.<\/p>\n
Let’s begin with the easiest concept to grasp and apply. <\/p>\n
Life is a team sport. You will survive better when you are part of a
\nteam and you work toward the survival of the team. A good team for you
\nis one that offers you a role you can play well and helps you to win in
\nlife. A bad team is one that exploits you and treats you as a
\nconsumable, as in discarded or eaten when no longer useful. <\/p>\n
People join companies or even criminal gangs, for that matter,
\nbecause it appears that they will be more likely to do better as an
\nemployee or gang member than on their own. People get married for the
\nsame reason.<\/p>\n
Sometimes these decisions are made unwisely. In a hostile and stormy
\nenvironment, it may seem that any port is better than braving the
\nstorm. As a result we may connect up with people who are crazier than
\nwe are and we live to regret our decision many times over.<\/p>\n
Then we find ourselves bound into what seems like servitude because
\nof our earlier decision and we stay in an abusive relationship or in a
\ndestructive work situation when we should be elsewhere.<\/p>\n
Does any of this ring a bell for you? If it does, I have some
\nsuggestions for breaking free. If this is all too dreary and unreal,
\nslip off and read Harry Potter or into some role-playing game. What I
\nam about to suggest takes more courage than facing Voldemort.<\/p>\n
The escape route from a bad decision is to Taking full responsibility for joining and now abandoning the group is the key to your future survival.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n This decision will cost you friends and you may lose every material If you try to escape the group or relationship without taking It all comes down to integrity. You compromise your integrity by Taking a salary for a job you hate, sex in a relationship you In the next post, I will attempt to suggest how you can select a I was talking with a friend recently who reminded me that employment instability continues unabated so I thought it was time to reprint a few articles from two years ago for those who missed them the first time. If you … Continue reading
\nundo the earlier decision and to bear the consequences of having joined
\nand now abandoning the destructive group or relationship.
<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n
\npossession. You could even suffer physical harm depending on the group
\nyou are separating yourself from. The upside is that you will emerge
\nwiser and stronger and will go on to new and better things if you have
\nlearned from your experience.<\/p>\n
\nresponsibility for publicly and formally departing the team, you
\nessentially become a fugitive and this acts as a barrier to joining a
\nbetter team. <\/p>\n
\njoining a group for the wrong reasons, or by staying with a group that
\nreveals itself to be a destructive influence on you. <\/p>\n
\ndespise, or drugs for favors – all of these are short-term pleasures
\nwith long-term destructive consequences. The longer you continue, the
\nmore damage you cause to your self-esteem and to your sanity in general.<\/p>\n
\nteam that is right for you and will allow you to play a better game of
\nenjoying life.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"