When your job or relationship ends, this forces open a door to other opportunities. It may seem like your world is ending, but it is simply the end of one chapter and the beginning of another.<\/p>\n
I am NOT<\/strong> saying that the past is not important, or not painful, or any of those other things. This is what is important:<\/p>\n<\/p>\n I can hear some people now. "What does he mean, only the end of a chapter? This job, this person has been my whole life!" <\/p>\n I am not making less of your work, or of your relationship, at all. When change is forced on you, it can create a terrible loss and it is appropriate to grieve about it. But you do no credit to the memory of the person you loved or the great job you did, if you shut down and refuse to go on.<\/p>\n You can honor the past by the way you face the future. The love you felt for one who is gone is not lessened if you brighten the lives of deserving others by giving them freely of your affection, admiration and love in order to create a new life for yourself and others. Shutting yourself off from life helps no one, least of all yourself.<\/p>\n In the same way, losing a well-deserved position, for which you have struggled mightily, is one of the unkindest blows that can occur. When it occurs going into the holiday season, it seems like the cruelest betrayal that could happen. <\/p>\n <\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n It will do no good to blame others, your particular God, or Fate.\n
\nWhat has happened has happened. You need to sit down with someone you
\ncan talk to and take stock of your options in life. If you have no one
\nto talk to, that is the first thing you must attend to. You need to
\nmake friends now, if you have never done so before.<\/p>\n