Betrayal is the condition of being treated unfairly. This can come from several different scenarios.
- A being expects one type of relationship based on reassurances made by others and is treated badly instead.
- A being is treated fairly by a person or group and then, with no warning, is treated badly because he violates some rule because he does not consider it important.
- A being joins a group without knowing the rules that the group considers to be important and violates the important rules because he does not know them or consider them important. The group will attack him violently and will attempt to destroy him because he has done something which calls for his destruction.
- A person has a set of rules for dealing with life and does not realize that others have opposing rules for dealing with life. He is quite relaxed about his rules while others feel that failing to follow their rules calls for severe punishment or death. Their rules include death to unbelievers.
- Betrayal occurs when a person is lied to and relies on what he is told. He does not know that lying is an acceptable way to operate according to the other person’s rules.
- Betrayal can occur when a person encounters someone who considers betrayal a normal method of ensnaring and overcoming others. It can be a cultural or personal attitude. The betrayer feels he has to use deception to overcome others.
In almost every case, betrayal occurs when the person does not know the rules others are using to guide their actions. You might say that betrayal occurs when there is missing data about proper behavior. If you act politely, but treat all strangers cautiously until you determine the rules they operate with you may avoid being betrayed. If the stranger is skilled at concealing their rules, you may still be in trouble.
Once you have been betrayed, your attention will be stuck on that incident or incidents when it occurred. This can make it difficult to ever trust anyone again. You can recover from a betrayal by examining the incident carefully and unemotionally and discerning which of the above situations existed. Once you discover the true reason your expectations were not met, you will be wiser and will not be betrayed again in the same way.
If you learn to read intentions better, you are unlikely to be betrayed in the future. To do this, you need to put your attention into the other person’s space and see what their intentions are regarding you. If you have difficulty reading intentions you can study Spiritual Rescue Technology and give yourself solo sessions or get SRT counseling. Both are effective in making you more aware of other’s intentions.