On The Subject Of Help

Posted on June 7, 2022 by David

When you attempt to help someone or some organization, you are doing something quite adventurous!

Your intentions may be honorable and your actions may represent a sacrifice of time and money but the reactions you get from those you wish to help can be quite discouraging.

This should not deter you from trying to help, but it might give you pause if you realized how many barriers exist to effectively helping others. Some of these barriers can be circumvented by a little study of the situation. Other barriers are as solid as if set in stone and you will break your spirit trying to help people who are grimly holding these barriers in place.

Gaining some understanding of how help is viewed by a potential recipient will go a long way toward making your life happier and more fulfilling.

You want to help and wish to share your experience, money, support, and advice with aomeone else who appears to need it for any of the following reasons:

a. They are out of work
b. They have just suffered a crushing loss of some kind
c. They are just not doing well in life and you can see why
d. They experience one disaster after another
e. They are on a downward spiral because of drug use or alcohol abuse
f. Everything they try to accomplish seems to turn out badly for no apparent reason
g. They are in a relationship with someone you care for
h. They are hard working people who have fallen on hard times

These examples have to do with circumstances and these circumstances do not always correlate with the barriers that may be present and can prevent you from helping effectively.

Here are some barriers you can encounter:

  • A person or group must want help before you you can actually do anything for them. Otherwise, they will skillfully waste your help or worse blame you for making their situation worse.
  • The second point is that they must feel that the help you offer is acceptable to them and will help them achieve what they want to achieve. If you force help on someone, or “persuade” them to let you help, they will grudgingly take your help and will find ways to make less of it.
  • Even if you are providing help that the person or organization has specifically requested, you can run afoul of some very basic human traits and will be heavily criticized.

Let us say that your help involves doing things which bring about desirable changes like more income or an improved reputation. The person or organization can become very upset when these changes require changes in areas they did not expect to change.

For example: You arrange to get someone a job and they now grumble because they have to show up at work on time every day. Or: You reorganize a company to get more production and you find that management wanted you to improve things without making any changes that would affect them.

  • Furthermore, some people and organizations are very hard to help. They view offers of help with suspicion as they know they would never help anyone except to take advantage of the situation.


What to do:

Do not stop trying to help, just look at how effective you are at helping and how the help is being received. Is the help being acted upon? Is the situation changing as a result of your help? Do you keep giving the same advice over and over? Do you keep giving money with no results to show for it? Is the person or organization moving on up to helping others, or do they just keep on asking for more help?

As a side check, are you willing to accept help from others? Some people are stuck in a mode where they can only outflow help. This is not a good thing as people want to help you in return and if you refuse offers of help, they will find ways to make you uncomfortable.

Be willing to accept help and to give help when needed for situations you care about. If you are being forced to help, you might want to rethink things. Enforced help is destructive whether it is required of you or forced upon you.

There is an exchange that takes place when help is given correctly. If you help someone who needs your help, and they benefit from it, you get satisfaction from having changed someone’s life for the better. If your help is resented or resisted, or possibly demanded, you will probably feel used or abused and your willingness to help evaporates.

Work on getting yourself into a frame of mind where you are free to help when it makes sense or to receive help when offered and you will find yourself creating new relationships with ease. Those of you who are already doing that know how much can be gained from freely helping others and receiving help in turn.

The best kind of help is a cheerful two-way flow which benefits both parties involved.

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Are You Doing Anything You Enjoy?

Posted on June 1, 2022 by David

Have you ever found yourself working on a project designed by others and felt that it was sucking the life out of you? Unfortunately, life is full of these opportunities and if you don’t have a strategy to handle them, you will find yourself many years later being bitter and dissatisfied.

The first step in handling these life-draining assignments is to take a good look at whether you can enjoy doing them. Believe it or not, enjoyment of what you are doing is right up there with getting paid for what you are doing. If the job promises to be difficult, at least see if there is some way you can get satisfaction from doing it or gain some valuable experience that you cannot get in any other way.

Boring Jobs – Past and Present

We work in order to feed and clothe ourselves and to establish ourselves as valuable players in the game of life. If we don’t get any satisfaction from our work, then we are wasting our life force. There are times when we have no skills that others want to pay for, so we have choices to make.

We can get trained in an academic or business environment to acquire skills that employers or customers are willing to pay for. In an academic environment, we can pay tens of thousands of dollars to acquire skills that employers should be willing to pay for but we may choose interesting courses that have no commercial value. By signing up for an apprenticeship, or an opening level position we get paid from the very beginning but our learning rate is very dependent on how we apply ourselves.

A simple way to improve your chances of finding a way to enjoy yourself in your working career is to look at the exchanges involved. What will you be able to provide your employer or clients and what will your employment be able to offer you? The exchange is not always money. Some young people have found joy working in low wage positions where they had a chance to travel and meet new people. Others have taken low-paying positions in order to work on projects which gave them priceless experience.

You are the only one who can decide what the right exchange is and if you take a position only because your family or significant other feels it will improve your social standing, you will live to regret your choice. If you make the right choice, it will not matter how much hard work is involved in mastering the skills required for success.

It will help you achieve the success you want if you write up an ideal scene for your career before launching into it. The ideal scene should contain all of the benefits of your career or new career, if you are rescuing yourself from a bad choice. The ideal scene should also describe the difficulties and how you plan to handle them. In other words, you ideal scene for work or for a relationship should cover all of the recognizable benefits and handling of obstacles. Once you have done this, you will immediately

recognize what you need to do to proceed in the right direction.

There is an other benefit to creating your ideal scene and holding it in your mind. Other people will notice it and those who support you will start contributing to it in ways you will not expect. If you are looking for a particular business or employment opportunity, someone will unexpectedly offer you a job or an introduction to an available position. If you are looking for a particular relationship, someone you know will introduce you to a potential partner just out of the blue. I have had both happen to me unexpectedly when I had a firm grip on what I wanted to accomplish.

If you are not happy with what you are doing and who you are doing it with, write up an ideal scene and see what happens. Once you start exercising your free will, all sorts of miracles can occur especially if your actions are intended to help others.

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Answering a client’s question about marijuana

Posted on May 28, 2022 by David

My client asked:

Hey David, random question but I enjoy the headspace I get into with weed but find myself unable to reach that level when sober. I feel like my thinking operates at a higher level simply after smoking, and I wish I could reach this level more often. Do you happen to have anything from an SRT perspective that would apply to my situation or be helpful?

Marijuana

Weed and other drugs produce exteriorization (an out-of-body experience). Some solvents and other chemicals will do the same which is why kids snort toxic substances. When you as a being separate from your body while doing drugs, you feel relief and can read minds and you can feel wonderful except that you will also have coordination issues, difficulty solving problems, occasional paranoia, and loss of control.

I was working in a suppressive environment and got introduced to weed many years ago. I worked long hours in a terrible job and would do weed on the way home to decompress. The lift I got from weed kept me from going crazy. When I left that job my weed use dropped to almost nothing and then I discovered Scientology and started going exterior on the comm course and realized that I did not need weed or any drugs to operate at a much higher level of confidence and intelligence. Every time I got into present time and started having realizations, I would go exterior.

Every time you have a cognition, you lift out of your reactive mind and life gets brighter. Every time you spot that you have something spiritual holding you back and making you feel discouraged and that spirit leaves, you get a huge release and you feel better for hours and possibly days.

Weed gives you a chemical release, but it messes with your time sense because you are out of present time when you are high. Try driving while smoking weed and watch how you mess up on traffic lights. You will find yourself sitting there asking, “Is that light ever going to turn green? while people in the next car are looking at you funny.

If you are doing meditation and solo sessions every day, you will start having cognitions and you will have headspace like you never had before. You will feel more alive and your perceptions will continue to increase and you stay in present time while you are enjoying your release.

To summarize: Chemical releases from weed and other drugs have all sorts of side effects. Meditation and solo Spiritual Rescue Technology sessions with your spirit guides will give you a better result with no unpleasant after effects.

I hope this helps.

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Preparing Yourself To Move On

Posted on May 27, 2022 by David

There comes a time in every game when you have won what you were after or have lost interest in continuing. If you persist in playing this game, you will find yourself drifting out of present time and dwelling on past losses and rarely, past glories. This game I am describing can be a relationship, a career, even a life as a particular identity. All are important and all can be played to completion.

Some people try to handle this end condition by moving to a new location and finding a new place to live. Some people try to move on by dropping their body in the hopes that the next lifetime will be better. Other people handle the ending of a game by reinventing themselves and finding a new game to play. All of this can work if you can leave your emotional baggage behind.

Emotional Baggage

You can shed your emotional baggage by bringing yourself stably into present time and one of the best ways to do this is to learn to meditate. Here is a simple way to do this:

Locate yourself in a quiet place and sit comfortably with your attention on some pleasant, non-threatening object and breathe slowly. Do not allow yourself to be distracted by random thoughts, just continue meditating. You will know when you are done when you are completely at peace. This may take several hours.

When you complete your meditation, do manual activity that enables you to keep your attention on present time matters. Do this for some time, perhaps an hour or two. When you are ready, review your current situation and see if there is another game you wish to play instead of what you are doing. Calmly review the alternatives to your present game and choose the one that suits your needs.

If you find you cannot make a decision even after many days of meditation, consider getting counseling to handle the spiritual barriers to making decisions. The correct counseling will give you the power to assume control of your life and allow you to make the decisions you need to move on.

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