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Affection is an essential component of healthy relationships and emotional life, representing a foundation for social bonding and mutual support. The presence of affection in relationships can contribute to emotional and physical well-being, reducing stress and encouraging happiness. While affection is related to love, it often refers to a milder, more enduring feeling that promotes warmth and closeness without the intensity of passion.

A lack of affection can significantly affect mental health by increasing the risks of depression, anxiety, loneliness, low self-esteem, and chronic stress. Regular affection—through physical touch, kind words, or supportive actions—serves as a crucial buffer against emotional distress and supports overall psychological well-being. In summary, insufficient affection is not just an emotional issue; it has well-documented, harmful effects on mental health and quality of life.

When two people meet again, and both are operating in present time, there is a possibility that a pleasant exchange will occur. If you walk into your doctor’s office and the receptionist smiles and says, “Good to see you again!”, she is showing affection for you, and your life force increases.

When you visit a store or office you have visited before, and you are greeted with a blank stare, the person is not acknowledging your presence in a positive way. When you see a member of your family and they regard you with suspicion or distrust, they are not showing any affection for you, and they are not contributing to your survival.

A person who has been denied affection will have increased vulnerability to depression, anxiety, and feelings of isolation. It may have been going on for so long that the person doesn’t even recognize the danger in this situation, because they accept it as a normal condition of life. The person may have been hurt emotionally for so long that they don’t remember how to express affection for others. They are truly alone in their suffering.

I have encountered too many people who have been emotionally damaged by a lack of affection from parents, spouses, and business associates. Until the person recognizes the permanent damage this causes, and does something about it, their lives are filled with unnecessary suffering. In some cases, these people waste their lives attempting to show affection for individuals who do not deserve their attention or their affection.

Affection must be freely given and accepted to benefit the people involved. If you are showing affection to someone because of family ties, and they return your affection with indifference or disdain, you need to orient yourself in present time and see that they are no longer emotionally connected to you. Relatives and friends who do not respond to your affection diminish your quality of life, and their company and presence should not be encouraged. You are encouraged to ask why they no longer like you, but you will probably not like what you discover, and you should focus on those who return your affection instead.

When someone you were affectionate with no longer considers you to be a worthwhile friend, you may have done something to offend them, or they may have been influenced by someone who desired to harm you. If they cannot tell you what you did to offend them, you need to cut ties with them and find others to bond with.

Your survival depends on others having affection for you and being the kind of people you have affection for. Reach out and find those people and keep them close to you. You won’t regret it.

If you cannot recover the ability to feel affection for people, I can help you with that, and it shouldn’t take more than a few sessions to begin discovering how to feel affection and experience happiness again. Send me an email at srtcounseling@gmail.com

Affection is a feeling of liking, caring, or fondness for someone or something, often marked by a tender attachment or emotional warmth. This sentiment can be directed toward people, animals, or even places, and is commonly viewed as a gentle or moderate emotional state associated with love, but distinct from deeper passions or desires. Affection is frequently expressed through looks, words, gestures, or touch, serving as a means of communicating emotional connection and support. Affection is important for social and emotional well-being and can benefit health by fostering social connections and happiness.

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It can be directed at people, animals, or even inanimate things, and it’s often associated with expressions such as hugs, smiles, or caring words. Regular expressions of affection contribute to well-being, reduce stress, boost immune response, and strengthen social bonds. When affection is absent, individuals may crave it or experience negative emotional effects. In summary, affection is a positive feeling or display of regard, warmth, or fondness, crucial for healthy emotional relationships and well-being.


People show affection in both verbal and nonverbal ways—through kind words, gestures like hugging or touching, or simple acts of care such as petting a cat or supporting a loved one. The specific way affection is expressed can vary by culture and individual preferences, but its core function is to build and maintain connections between people. Affection is a moderate, positive emotion that supports relationships and individual well-being through caring and supportive gestures.


Cultural differences have a significant impact on how affection is expressed between individuals, influencing communication styles, acceptable public behaviors, and relationship dynamics across societies. Understanding these diverse norms and traditions helps foster empathy and avoid miscommunication in cross-cultural relationships.
Unlike love, which often involves an emotional and sometimes contractual commitment, affection can be spontaneous, temporary, and free of binding responsibilities. It is the expression of positive feelings that can occur independently of the deeper ties associated with commitment.


A lack of affection can significantly affect mental health. Research consistently shows that affection deprivation is linked to increased feelings of loneliness, depression, anxiety, stress, and lower self-esteem. Affection acts as a buffer against mental distress and supports emotional stability. Without it, people may feel unloved, unwanted, and isolated, which can trigger self-doubt, lower self-worth, and a sense of disconnection from others. Over time, these negative emotions can lead to or worsen mental health conditions like depression and anxiety. A lack of affection can lead to poor relationship satisfaction, emotional distance, and difficulty forming or maintaining close bonds. This can make individuals more vulnerable to mental health issues and reduce the overall quality of life. In summary, insufficient affection can erode mental health and emotional resilience, substantially increasing the risk of depression, anxiety, and stress-related disorders.


So, what does this have to do with you? If you are not getting affection from the pets or people in your environment, you are surviving on your own and are not doing very well. You have not learned how important affection is and are not showing affection to others, so unless you smarten up and learn how to show affection, you are just going to get worse and suffer the consequences.


If you take a good look at the people who make you feel better, you will see people who show you affection. If you look at the people who make you feel inadequate and useless, you are seeing people you do not show affection for, and they do not show affection for you either.


If you find a way to show affection for something a person does for you, you will strengthen the social bonds between you, and you will both be better off in the future. If someone you know is being an utter waste of oxygen, you should consider how to show affection for him removing himself from your life and no longer wasting your attention and concern. Direct him to your equivalent of the Gadarene Swine and let nature take its course.


Maintain your affection for people, pets, and things that promote your happiness and survival. Building affection is less about grand gestures and more about small, mindful habits practiced consistently each day, regardless of relationship type.


Go and practice affection for people, pets, and things that matter. You will feel better in just a few days.


David St Lawrence

If you are a modern-day spiritual healer, you have probably run into demonic spirits afflicting a person and have found yourself with no convenient place to send them. They are afflicting the person because they are carrying out some implanted command from some long ago incident. If you contact them, you will find they are still trying to right some ancient wrong that has nothing to do with present-time activities, but they have been stirred up and activated by some present day disagreement and are violently defending the person they are attached to..

I have encountered such demonic spirits several times in my counseling practice and have sent them to some mercenary group that needs their ferocity to aid its survival. I did not have the time or inclination to handle the ancient wrong that had occurred and I sent them where their intentions would be aligned with the group they were joining.

In the New Testament, Jesus performed a similar action when he exorcised demons out of a man and into a herd of swine, causing the swine to run down a hill into a lake and drown themselves. This is known as the Miracle of the (Gadarene) Swine and the exorcism of Legion,

I have recently been contacted by an afflicted person and was pondering how I could transfer their demonic spirits from them to a place that could use their ferocious energy for a worthwhile purpose and I consulted Perplexity and asked where people obtain ferocious guard dogs.

Perplexity answered: People typically obtain ferocious guard dogs from specialized breeders, professional dog trainers, and companies dedicated to personal and property protection. These sources often offer breeds specifically selected and trained for guarding, such as Belgian Malinois, German Shepherds, Cane Corso, Bullmastiff, and Doberman Pinscher, which are renowned for their protective instincts, loyalty, strength, and courage.

I looked further and found PROTECTION DOGS WORLDWIDE LTD which is located in North Humberside, England. They are a reputable company and they supply puppies and adult dogs with strong guarding traits. They care for their dogs and train them to be safe with families and children while maintaining their protective instincts. There are other, similar firms which supply guard and protection dogs, so you have plenty of options for relocating your aggressive spirits who are not candidates for rehabilitation where they are presently located.

I feel this can be a win-win proposition for my afflicted client and for the spirits I relocate. My client is free from the destructive impulses that overpower his judgment, and the spirits can use their energy and protective impulses in a productive way and be rewarded for them.

I would be happy to hear your comments and suggestions as there is a continuing need for safe destinations for troubled spirits who are not ready for rehabilitation. Send me an email at srtcounseling@gmail.com

David St Lawrence

Spiritual Rescue Technology

Creating a bright future requires letting go of past failures, and that is easier said than done. To let go of a failure requires confronting it and learning from it, so you do not have to repeat it. When you can look at your past mistakes without regret, you are free from them. A mistake occurs when you do not have a clear intention that encompasses the realities you are facing. Revisiting your mistakes in a caring way allows you to see what actually happened and why you did what you did.

If you are willing to consider that everything you have done, good or bad, seemed like a good idea at the time, you will finally be in a position to free yourself from the incidents that still hold your attention and stop you from creating a future.

When you are able to examine every disaster you have experienced and see what you did or failed to do that caused it to occur, you will be free to create whatever future you wish. If you are trying to find a reason to blame yourself or others for your fate, you will continue to wallow in the mystery of why things went wrong.

The only reason that things go wrong is that you did not understand the rules that applied to that situation. You made an assumption, based on incomplete or missing information, and it turned out to be wrong. There are rules like gravity and inertia that apply to the physical universe, even when you are ignorant of them. There are rules for the interchange of information that apply, even when you do not know the customs or language. When you violate these rules, you create upsets and violent reactions, even if your intentions are peaceful and your intention is to help. If you have ever been attacked for healing someone or have been bitten when trying to save an animal, your attempt at communication was misunderstood.

We tend to think that our good intentions will carry the day, but our ignorance of local agreements and customs will invariably wound us and leave us fixated on the damage that occurred. This fixation on past painful events prevents us from freely creating a new future and cripples us spiritually forever more.  If we do not revisit our past errors and learn why things went wrong, we will continue to repeat these errors and accumulate more pain and unconsciousness as time goes on. The result is that we become less able to create solutions and become stupider as time goes on. Eventually, we become too stupid to live and reincarnate as some lower life form or fail to reincarnate at all.

If we recover our ability to recognize existing agreements and to join people and groups with agreements that promote our survival, we are able to create a bright future for ourselves and for those who support us. A group of us have been working to develop a Spiritual Rescue Technology, which is based on our observations of the agreements and activities of the spiritual universe. If you would like to learn more about your options for creating a bright future, send me an email at srtcounseling@gmail.com

David St Lawrence