Making Ripples

My Ideal Scene as a spiritual counselor is to make people happy so they will survive better. There are specific reasons why people are unhappy, and chronically ill, and if a person can be acquainted with these reasons and change them, their future can be changed for the better.

If someone or something in your environment disapproves of what you are or what you are doing, your survival is threatened. Ignoring this disapproval will not make it go away. You need to handle this counter-intention or disconnect entirely from the source in order to flourish and prosper. An unfriendly environment does not aid your survival.

You may be in the wrong place. Your ideas my not be acceptable in your current location, Your religion, race, gender, skin color, or health may not be appropriate for your current situation because they trigger emotional responses that threaten your survival.

The people who disapprove of you are not necessarily evil. They can have personal or past experiences that make it difficult to see any value in your continuing existence. If you can change what you are doing that triggers their negative responses, you can possibly handle the opposition to your presence.

If their disapproval is based on factors you have no control over, you are better off disconnecting from them and their group and finding people more like yourself.

If you are unhappy or chronically ill, contact me for a free session in which I will help you locate the real source of your problem and work out a lasting solution to the threats to your survival. If the lasting solution involves teaching you the skills to prevent this from ever happening again, we can arrange counseling sessions to prevent this from ever happening again.

Send me an email at srtcounseling@gmail.com and we can schedule your free session to see what’s really happening and what can be done about it.

David St Lawrence

Does that sound like an optimum way to live? It would appear that you are in a situation where your ideas are not appreciated, and that does not sound like it aids your survival.

Either you have found yourself in the wrong group, or you have ideas that clash with the agreements of the society you live in. Either way, you are different enough that you get negative intentions from the people around you.

This can happen in a family when one of the family members goes off to college or into the service and adopts a new way of life that clashes with family values. It happens whenever a family member joins a group with agreements that differ from established family customs.
The person exposed to the new way of life has to decide whether to adopt the new customs and leave the family or to conform to established family customs and forgo any departures from what is accepted at home. Trying to remain at home with non-family viewpoints and beliefs can create an untenable living situation for all concerned.


If the family accepts the person’s new viewpoints and beliefs, as sometimes happens when a person announces they are now a different gender or religion, the family stays together under new agreements and survives as a family unit.


If the parties involved can grant each other beingness and live with their new differences, the family evolves into a different kind of group. Caring communication enables groups facing these changes to survive as a unit or to survive as separate units with amicable relationships. Both solutions have been reached by groups experiencing unexpected changes if the parties continue to communicate in a caring and respectful way.


If the original family or group is not amenable to change, the sanest solution for those adopting new customs or ideas is to depart as politely as possible and establish themselves as independent entities. Change is inevitable, and handling it responsibly is the best solution for maintaining personal integrity. Then you will never have to worry about being careful of what you say or do.

We will be discussing this and other matters in tomorrow’s SRT workshop at 12 noon EST on Zoom. Send me an email at srtcounseling@gmail and ask for a link to the Zoom session.

David St Lawrence

There once was a time when your life offered fun and excitement, and now you are determined to work on keeping things on an even keel. Life is not grim yet, but it is no longer fun and exciting, more like being scolded for everything you do.

If you would like to experience acknowledgment for your efforts and admiration instead of indifference, you need to take a closer look at your environment and see what is actually occurring.

You have gone into agreement with some situations that have taken the joy out of your life, and you did it for the best of reasons, or so you thought. You have compromised your integrity, and you did it for what seemed like the best of reasons. You have taken on a job or entered into a relationship that is slowly sucking the life out of you, and you don’t see any easy way out of your current situation.

If someone were to point out that you are being suppressed, you might agree, but you would probably say, “Only by myself!” and it would be totally true. The unfortunate fact that we are immortal beings makes it possible for us to make the same mistakes over and over again until we are jolted into awareness by someone who knows what is happening and how to stop it.

You are being suppressed, and your life force is being diminished every day you are exposed to the source of your suppression. You may not even recognize that you are holding back from this person, but I can guarantee that you are not comfortable around this person. Join our SRT workshop on Zoom this Sunday and learn the different ways you can recover from this situation and get your life back on track for happiness and self-respect.

If you find you need more help than you get from the workshop, you can work with me in private sessions to handle your situation.

Our workshop will be hosted on Zoom on Sunday at 12 noon EST using the usual link for joining SRT Workshop sessions. If you don’t have the link, send me an email at srtcounseling@gmail.com and let me know of your interest in participating.

David St Lawrence

There is a downside to being connected to all of humanity through the Internet. Anyone with a cell phone can now view scenes of incredible horror, depraved behavior, and mind-bending outrage by tapping a screen and asking for access to whatever bizarre activity comes to mind. And that’s just the mainstream news on AP, ABC, BBC, MSN, CNN, and the Wall Street Journal!

Your opinion may differ, especially if you have been fed a diet of news from these sources for a few years, but has any of this news brought you a sense of peaceful enlightenment? Almost all news from the mainstream media is written with a purpose to push a certain point of view and not to inform or enlighten. You are being coached to view a particular segment of society as villains, rather than people handling difficult situations with inadequate resources.

News articles written for their shock value do not provide you with information to build a future on. You can tell who among your friends are readers of the mainstream media because they parrot the latest atrocity headline as though it was holy writ. And why not? We all look for stability in a fast-changing and threatening world. Having concise answers to puzzling situations gives us a feeling of being in charge in an otherwise confusing and threatening world.

Finding someone else to blame for rising crime, threats to our safety, homelessness, riots, and our own helplessness in the face of looming unemployment and rising costs, makes us feel less responsible for our lack of control in our lives.

The only way out of this trap is to find sources of information that give you a balanced view of issues and to observe for yourself what the actual facts are for any situation. If you can’t get facts you can verify with several reliable sources, ignore that news and the news source. Try avoiding mainstream media because they coordinate their stories and often use the same language to spread their version of the news.

Try to find news sources that offer positive viewpoints as well as exposure of illegal or undesirable activities so that you get a balance of things to be wary of and things to look forward to. If the news sources give you data to improve your life, that helps your survival also.

You need accurate data to manage your life and your future. Don’t put your health or sanity in danger by wallowing in bad news. Look for people and news sources with positive solutions.

David St Lawrence