Can you allow yourself to think about that, or does the mere thought make you shudder? In most of the situations I see as a spiritual counselor, you have resigned yourself to cope with the situation you find yourself in and do whatever you can to suffer on through it. You have not yet decided to create an ideal scene.
We go through life making one decision after another, in the best way we can, and we often end up in situations we could not envision in our worst nightmares. We do the best we can, but we can’t seem to find a way out of our situation. The solution is not to do more of the same, but to take an exterior viewpoint and to imagine an ideal scene in which you could be happy and achieve your goals.
If this was easy, everyone would be doing it, so prepare yourself to change almost everything you are doing now and set up new assumptions for how you are going to live your life so that you are winning and having the best time of your life.
You need to start with the basics needs of being happy and productive and add the actions and conditions that would support those first two needs. If you choose the right items to start with, your next choices will become easier. Consider what you will be producing and what you will get in exchange so that you will be happy producing a valuable product or service and will benefit everyone you know by doing this.
Your ideal scene could include provision for future expansion, so that as you add partners and responsibilities, there are others to pick up the load and continue the effort into the far future. However, your ideal scene must conform to your personal goals and not be altered to fit other’s intentions. You may find yourself changing the ideal scene as things change in your life, but the primary goal is to create an existence where you are winning and having the best time of your life.
David St Lawrence